Letting Go of the Numbers

Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful

A new conversation

Its time to change the conversation that we are having about weight. Everyone is ready and willing to tell you the best way to eat, the only way to exercise, the supplements you need to have in order to achieve success. But no one is talking about why.  Why a person can be the CEO of a fortune 500 company and still not be able to get a handle on their weight. Why so many of our young people are battling eating disorders.  Why our young women, if given a choice, would rather be skinny then smart. We aren’t talking about $5 billion industry that is dedicated to convincing us that we are not good enough.  We aren’t talking about how many of us look in the mirror every day and see nothing but failure.  Before you call me out as a hypocrite, yes I make a living as a personal trainer, and yes I spend every day motivating people to lose weigh.  However this struggle is so much more than a number on the scale. The battles we are facing have so little to do with the food or our weight, and that is what no one is talking about.  Its time to change that conversation.
Here is a little bit about me… It’s not my certification or my years in the field that make me a weight loss expert. What makes me an expert is the years I have spent fighting this beast. The pounds, the diets, the disappointment and self loathing, the short cuts and desperation. The feeling growing up that I was worth less because I weighed more.  When I went to the hospital to have baby number 2, I saw 250 on the scale, and it scared the shit out of me.  I had fallen apart.  Years of depression and that overwhelming feeling of not knowing who I was or what I wanted showed up in the friendly face of someone who would do anything for anyone, but could not control what she was eating.  I now had a choice to make, these two beautiful girls  deserved a mom who had her shit together.  So I made the choice to make a change, one step at a time.  It was and is a long and often ugly process, but I got my physical health under control, and a side effect was getting my mental health at least in check. Every step of this story has been amazing, not always fun, but amazing none the less.  I grew up hating and avoiding physical activity of all kinds, now here I am a personal trainer and wellness coach, runner and triathlete.


Its time to let go of what the number on the scale tells you about yourself. Its time to let go of the image of what other people think we should be. It’s time to start recognizing that healthy is not defined by a size or a number. Happy is not found on the scale or at the bottom of a pint of ice cream.


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  1. Scott

    Great start, Heather! Keep it up!

  2. Cindy spritzer

    Amazing perspective! Good to keep the reasons to lose weight not about the number, it is about health and wellness. Love it and love u heather

  3. Lou Nesson

    Hi Heather! Great to see this blog. You so inspired my daughter and I that we are keeping to the plan. Nothing I ever participated in ever pulled it all together like the week we spent in NY. Your history mskes you a better trainer than someone who has not lived the struggle. I look forward to resding more here.

  4. Lindsey W

    Love it, Heather! So glad you’re doing this – I can’t wait to read more!

  5. Julie

    How do we automatically get your blog??

    • heather

      This is new to me as well, I will look into it and get back to you

  6. Helle Yip-Nielsen

    Love you inspiring blog!

  7. Brenda j

    This! I love your teachings. Thank you for keeping us on the right path.

  8. Mary Kirby

    Love this. Where do I sign up?

  9. Theresa

    I love u heather. I am lucky enough to call you my friend. U truly are my role model and someone I look to for advice in all areas of my life. U have found your true calling in fitness but more importantly in wellness. Keep ypur held held high and know that u are beautiful inside and out. Love tree

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