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Resolutions, Goals, and Plans


I’ve never been a fan of resolutions. I don’t like leaving things unfinished, and it seems like people make resolutions with the intention of breaking them. Instead I like to set goals. Early in the new year I start with a blank piece of paper and make a list of everything I want to accomplish.  There are no restrictions to what I write, I don’t limit it by what seems possible or what I have time for, I just make the list. Goals that relate to my family, home, fitness, career, finances everything gets written down.

When I finish my list I let it sit for a day or two, then I start to organize and filter. There is power in writing down your goals, it takes the scattered thoughts and brings them into focus. When you take a fresh look at what you have written brings into focus what you want and what you think you should want.  Every year I set a goal to organize our office, and every year that project gets pushed aside, if it was really that important to me it would be done. If you’re looking at something you have written and all you can think is that you don’t have the time, money, or energy to make it happen, let it go for now. We find the time and money for the things that matter to us, maybe you aren’t there yet.

Sometimes the goals are small like remembering to floss every day.  Sometimes the goals are huge like completing an Ironman. Some of them won’t matter to anyone but you, that doesn’t diminish their importance.

Once you have those goals in mind, it’s time to make a plan, don’t just hope that these goals will fall into place, figure out how you’re going to make it happen. The great thing about fitness goals is a lot of them come with a plan. I have a plan for the next 30 weeks that will get me across the finish line at the Lake Placid Ironman! This year I also have big career goals, I am expanding my private coaching business, and there isn’t a training plan for that. Instead of hoping that a business plan will fall into my lap, I’m researching, expanding my education, forming new relationships, and reigniting old ones.  Putting together a plan that will get me to my goal.

Start by asking yourself what you really want. What areas of your life run smoothly, and where are you pushing against the grain. Don’t be afraid to dream big. The first time I knew I would complete a marathon I was over 200 pounds training for my first 5k. Stop limiting yourself by what seems possible.


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  1. Shari Page

    Wish you were closer!

  2. Marge kelly

    Great post to start the year. Let me know if you need help with the business plan

  3. Gary Rosenblum

    Great message. Thank you. You are an inspiration for me.

  4. Emily Williams

    God damn you are so motivational. Come live with me, help me!!!

  5. Fran

    I have tried this technique, the papers stay on a little clip by my computer, I look at them, in fact they have been there for a couple of years. How do I take them and make them reality?

    • Heather

      That’s where the plan comes into place. Start with the goal, then come up with steps on how you’re going to make it happen. I’m a fan of time limits. I am going to do an Ironman be for I turn 40. When I wrote that, I had 7 years to make it happen.

  6. Elizabeth

    I miss our Wednesday evening talks! You inspire me!


    Thanks I need this encouragement.

  8. Sara

    This is truly inspiring. I just read all your posts. You have nailed it. It is what most people are thinking in regards to losing weight, excersing, and eating healthy. At one point I weighed ~ 220#s. I worked my tail off for 3yrs to lose 70#. Then I hit a plateau for quite some time so I changed my game plan. I lost 20#. I started running 5Ks. However over the past 2yrs I have gained the 20#s back. I was getting frustrated with running as I didn’t seem to improve. So the spiral down started. I will continue to read your posts for the positive reinforcement as I set a new plan in motion.

    • Heather

      Thank you! Great work with how far you have come! Always remember this is a lifetime process! Please feel free to email me if you have any questions.

  9. Marty

    I miss you guys a bunch and would like to thank you once again for helping me kickstart my new life journey. It must be terribly difficult for you and T now that you don’t have me shaking my sexy self all over that gym. But don’t worry, you tell the others I said hello and let them know “I’ll be back”.

    Until then I will be patiently waiting for you to put another inspirational post on here… So get crackin’! 😉

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